One of my favorite quotes is “Raising teenagers resembles attempting to nail jello to a tree.” I don’t remember who stated it, but it’s stuck with me. In my deal with teenagers I have actually learned that the guidelines change, attitudes change, and it’s tough to predict exactly what every day will be like.
Among the reasons forgiveness appears to be such an appealing choice is since of the stability this offers the ego mind. Due to the original abuse that happened one is undoubtedly going to carry worries of their Caretakers in New Jersey. And these fears will have been quelched and pressed out of conscious awareness.
For one, disappointing interest in their work can discourage them. I worked with one child that developed several images and class art projects for his mother. She would come to choose him up from school and he would excitedly show his art to his mom and tell her he made them simply for her. Most of the time, she said, “That’s good”, and never ever gave his work another idea. She never applauded him, or stated thanks. A couple of days of this, and he no longer was interested in art, or in making something for his mom. It took a lot of appreciation and motivation from the worker’s at the center to get him back on track, and even then he would still shy away from art projects if we would let him.
Cell Phones. Does your kid have a cell phone? Do they have time and use constraints and are they living within these controls? Who are their pals? What are they sending? Are they sexting (sending out raunchy texts or photos via their cellular phone)? Do you know what their text acronyms (shortcuts) suggest– for example, GNOC, which means “Get naked on cam (web cam)”?
Monday nights at 7 PM, Miss Susannah checks out fun stories to kids of all ages. The next few story time events will fall on January 24 and 31 and on February 7.
Sometimes our loved ones leave us rather rapidly, and some go gradually over several years as my Mommy has done. Nevertheless they leave it’s difficult for those of us left behind to come to terms with their death.
Tony Robbins, worldwide popular success coach, says in one of his audio programs, and I’m paraphrasing, that if somebody is continuously motivated by others providing a reward for accomplishment, similar to a hug or excellent grades or a higher allowance, you wind up with an excellent feeling in the minute, however the feeling does not last. The great feeling is fleeting because you understand you’re trading behavior or achievement for an external reward. You then need more kudos from others for the great feeling to return.
So moms and dads, motivate your kids as much as you can. When they aren’t doing so well, applaud them for tasks well done and encourage them and praise them even. Praising children, and motivating them to continue to do their best, constructs self esteem in children. Kids with high self esteem will be ready to find out, willing to work, and more willing to work harder in subjects they can not quite master.